Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Picking A Marriage Partner But Were Afraid To Ask Of Your Commanding Officer — otherwise known as a U.S. Army chaplain program called "How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk."
"’Being in the military certainly raises the stakes when you choose a mate,’ said Lt. Col. Peter Frederich, head of family issues in the Pentagon’s chaplain office.
"The ‘no jerks’ program is also called ‘P.I.C.K. a Partner,’ for Premarital Interpersonal Choices and Knowledge.
"It advises the marriage-bound to study a partner’s F.A.C.E.S. — family background, attitudes, compatibility, experiences in previous relationships and skills they’d bring to the union.
"It teaches the lovestruck to pace themselves with a R.A.M. chart — the Relationship Attachment Model — which basically says don’t let your sexual involvement exceed your level of commitment or level of knowledge about the other person.
"Maj. John Kegley, a chaplain who teaches the program in Monterey, Calif., throws in the ‘no jerk salute’ for fun. One hand at the heart, two-fingers at the brow mean use your heart and brain when choosing."
"Don’t let your sexual involvement exceed your level of commitment or level of knowledge about the other person."
Translation from Military-Speak: "Save sex for marriage."
