Parts in This Series: One (Celibacy in General) | Two (Cutie’s Options)
As of Tuesday (January 4th), Fr. Albert Cutié‘s book DILEMMA: A Priest’s Struggle With Faith and Love is supposed to be out. I have not yet seen a copy, but I have seen the press release that was sent around last week in anticipation of the book’s release. To lay the groundwork for the story, I’ve done two posts—the first giving the background to the Catholic Church’s discipline of celibacy in its Latin rite and the second explaining the options Fr. Cutie had when he began to be attracted and then involved with Ruhama Buni Canellis, a divorced mother who he began a romantic relationship with while still a Catholic priest.
The Spanish-language press discovered the relationship and took pictures of the two having romantic frolics on beaches and in clearly inappropriate situations, such as Buni Canellis romantically wrapping her legs around Fr. Cutie and Fr. Cutie putting his hands down her swimsuit to fondle her behind.
When the pictures were published, Cutie requested a leave of absence from the Archdiocese of Miami. In an interview that same month (May 2009) he said he respected the Latin Church’s discipline of celibacy and did not want to become the “anti-celibacy priest.”
By the end of the month, Fr. Cutie defected from the Catholic Church and joined the Episcopal Church, where he was assigned pastoral duties at a local Episcopal parish. The following month (June 2009) he attempted marriage with Buni Canellis in an Episcopalian ceremony. (Note: Because of his canonical situation, this marriage is not valid, meaning that the two are objectively living in sin.) The two have subsequently had a child.
Fr. Cutie has apparently changed his mind about not wanting to become the “anti-celibacy priest,” if the press release to it is any guide.
The press release was send with a cover e-mail by Barbara Teszler, of Levine Communications Office, Inc., a public relations firm.
Let’s look at it an note [in parentheses] some of the themes it contains (we’ll skip the hackneyed cliches it’s also stuffed full of).
Here is how her letter begins:
The man the media turned into a living [NAME], when the paparazzi “caught” [theme:Cutie as victim] Father Cutié embracing the love of his life in a romantic moment on the beach [theme:Cutie as victim; how could anybody stand up to his emotions regarding “the love of his life”?], it sparked an explosive media scandal – the culmination of a private struggle [theme:Cutie as victim] that had been burdening him [theme:Cutie as victim] for years. He could live the lie no longer[theme:Cutie as victim]: his private agony [theme:Cutie as victim]was now national news.scarlet letter
[theme:Cutie as victim]
Resolving that a pure hand needs no glove to cover it [theme:Cutie as forthright, honest man—wow is the glove statement audacious and bizarre], Father Cutié decided to take a leave from the Church [theme:Cutie as forthright, honest man; this is also spin since Cutie requested a leave of absence; he didn’t just decide to “take a leave”]. Many backs were consequently turned on him for good [theme:Cutie as victim; he apparently determined that these backs were turned “for good” rather quickly since he left the Church in under a month] – this, in the face of all the scandals kept quiet on the inside of the institution [theme:Cutie as victim; the Church is picking on him but not others].
His crime?
Falling in love. [theme:Cutie as victim; nobody should suffer for the “crime” of falling in love; two notes: (1) this is just too hackneyed a cliche to go by without comment, and (2) “falling in love” with someone you cannot legitimately pursue romantically is a “crime” in the sense of being immoral and gravely sinful; it is indeed a “crime” for a husband to “fall in love” with someone other than his wife or for an adult to “fall in love” with a small child or for a priest to “fall in love” with anybody except in some kind of spiritual, non-romantic, non-sexual way.]
As Father Cutié began the long, uphill battle ahead [theme:Cutie as victim]– one that continues today [theme:Cutie as victim]– it became increasingly clear that far bigger questions were now at hand.[theme:Cutie as forthright, honest man]
Ever adamant about his devotion and love for God,[theme:Cutie as forthright, honeset man] and now an Episcopal priest, Father Cutié’s actions reignite a debate that may very well never be laid to rest[theme:Cutie as forthright, honest man]: must Catholic priests be denied the right to physically express their love[theme:Cuties as victim & as forthright, honest man]?
Father Cutié’s DILEMMA: A Priest’s Struggle with Faith and Love [theme:Cutie as victim & as forthright, honest man]takes you through the life of a man torn between his devotion to the Church [theme:Cutie as forthright, honest man] and the passions and convictions of his own heart [theme:Cutie as forthright, honest man], as well as eloquently raising questions about the origins of the promise of celibacy, its logical fallacy,[Huh?] and the various reasons for abolishing it as a requirement for priesthood.[theme:Cutie as forthright, honest man]
I implore you to get in touch about featuring the very compelling and personable Father Cutié [theme:Cutie as forthright, honest man]to see if he won’t shake your notions on religion. I’ve included more info below.
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Of course, public relations firms are paid to present their clients in a good light and to write prose compelling enough to generate positive PR. That means some degree of hyperbole is inevitable. But if you look past Teszler’s writing style, it’s startling the number of times that Cutie is portrayed as a victim and as a forthright, honest man. There is no sense of personal culpability or responsibility. He’s an innocent saint who is being mercilessly victimized, the way this press release reads. His book may portray a different picture, but frankly, if I’d messed up the way Fr. Cutie did, I’d be ashamedto have my story represented with this kind of smug sanctimoniousness. Instead, I’d wan’t a far more humble tone about a gripping story of broken humanity, the desperate search for solutions, and honest questions for the benefit of others in the future. But we get none of that here. Nor do we get it in the accompanying press release that Teszler sent:
His love life became international news. Now Father Albert Cutié tells his side of the story: On falling in love, continuing priestly ministry outside the Roman Catholic Church, and becoming a father. “As a Roman Catholic priest, I was forced to decide between a supernatural love—in a ministry serving the Lord—and natural love—in a forbidden relationship with a woman. Both were blessings given to me by the same God, the source of all love. This was my dilemma.”—Father Albert Cutie [Sorry, but no. God did not put Fr. Cutie in this dilemma. Don’t blame God. And don’t refer to an illicit relationship with a woman as a “gift” from God.]In 1995, Alberto Cutie was ordained as a Roman Catholic priest in the Archdiocese of Miami. Years later, he was the internationally known host of a number of television programs, bestselling author of Real Life, Real Love [How ironic is that title, in hindsight?], and immensely popular figure known for his compassion and kind image. He was so beloved that he’d even come to be known as “Father Oprah.” He thrilled at spreading God’s word and never tired of the solace and comfort he brought to his congregation and his audience. But he was also chafing under a Church system that, he believes, too often treats priests inhumanely, denying them the chance to lead happy, fulfilling lives. Father Albert was facing a dilemma.
The celibate Roman Catholic priest had fallen in love and had gone through an ideological evolution on several controversial church policies.[As often happens when people seek to rationalize personal sin; they start rejecting the intellectual premises that require it to be sinful; homosexuals reject the obvious procreative aspect of sex in favor of homosexual acts; pedophiles reject the same in favor of sexual acts with children; husbands and wives reject the principle of fidelity so that they can cheat on their spouses; it’s quite common for people to subject their principles to their lusts rather than the other way around.]
DILEMMA: A Priest’s Struggle With Faith and Love (Celebra Hardcover; January 4, 2011; $25.95) is Father Albert Cutié’s personal hard-hitting indictment of the Roman Catholic Church [emphasis added; if the book is, indeed a “hard-hitting indictment” then he obviously has changed his mind about wanting to be the “anti-celibacy priest”], an institution he identifies as being stuck in the past, and often inhumane. Cutié relates his story of being cast out of the Church for the sin of falling in love with a woman [this is flat-out false; Fr. Cutie was not “cast out of the Church”; the Catholic Church has no procedures for casting out members; not even excommunication does that; Fr. Cutie voluntarily left the Church; his status as an Episcopalian is entirely his choice], and his no-holds-barred treatment of the Church’s rules will raise eyebrows and spark debate.[So, like, more on that whole, “I now want to be the anti-celibacy priest” thing]
When paparazzi captured Father Cutié and his then girlfriend (now his wife) in a romantic moment on the beach, it was the start of an explosive media scandal, but the culmination of a private struggle that he had been living with for years. He had made a promise of celibacy with every intention of keeping it for life– but how could he ignore true, earthly love, a love that God himself had put in front of him?[GAH! Please do not blaspheme God in this way!] And why would the Church, which had turned a blind eye to years of abusive, promiscuous and criminal behavior on the part of so many priests,[This indictment is in significant measure inaccurate; to the extent it is accurate, the Church has experienced a major shift for the better on this point; “All the other kids have been able to have illicit sex, so why can’t I?” is not a good defense; using the crimes of pedophiles to cover your own illicit sex is a cynical, manipulative, and degrading move] take such a hard line on this issue [Dude, what on earth did you expect?] and react so negatively toward the announcement by the popular priest to realize his dream of continuing priestly ministry as a married man and having a family?[What “announcement” are we talking about? “I’m ditching the Church to become an Episcopalian?” What was the negative reaction? “We regret Fr. Cutie’s decision?” Have officials of the Catholic Church said anything intemperate at all in this matter?]
In DILEMMA, Father Cutié opens up about answering the call to become a priest as a young man and falling in love with priesthood; the television and radio shows that made him famous and loved around the world; becoming “Father Oprah” and the immense joy he finds in spreading God’s word and comfort. But he also discusses feeling abandoned, neglected and overworked by absent Church leaders; the outdated, bigoted and hypocritical actions and beliefs of the Church; the open secret that many priests carry on love affairs – both gay and straight – and even have children; and the remarkable way the Church cast one of their own aside.[Dude, you left] He also eloquently illuminates the origins of the promise of celibacy, its logical fallacy,[Huh?] and the many reasons for abolishing it as a requirement for priesthood.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Father Albert Cutié has had the special privilege of entering millions of homes throughout the world with his television and radio talk shows, as well as his newspaper advice columns. He was the first priest to host a daily “talk-show” [Why does “talk show” need scare quotes?] as part of a major network on national and international secular television. His first self-help book, Real Life, Real Love was published by Penguin and became a best-seller in Spanish. He is now a married priest in the Episcopal Diocese of Southeast Florida. Visit his website at: www.fralbert.com.
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DILEMMA A Priest’s Struggle With Faith and Love By Father Albert Cutié Celebra Hardcover; On-sale: January 4, 2011 $25.95; ISBN: 978-0-451-23201-4
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Obviously, much more could be said. But let’s pray for Fr. Cutie, for his civil law wife, his child and step-child, and for all who may be led astray by the scandal (in the theological sense: an example that encourages others to fall into sin) whose flames he and his press agency is so anxiously fanning. What do you think?
Did Alberto Cutie ever wear that type of collar whilst he was a Catholic priest?
+JMJ+
I can’t BELIEVE that they are defending him in this way! Our culture today is a nightmare. It is so terrible and scary to see how lost and totally irresponsible people are today. Don’t they have any conscience at all left? What happened to “fighting the good fight?” What happened to standing up to temptation? They don’t seem to realize that the only way to PROVE (yes, PROVE) their love for God is by the (duh?) Cross. Suffering and strife are blessings, just ask the saints. Just SAYING “I love You” is not enough. You have to show it. The words “merit” and “virtue” seem to be lost.
May God have mercy on Father Cutie, and all who have gone astray.
I am most terribly saddened for his soul and those who hold him in such high regard that they support his scandalous behaviour.
You’ve got to wonder about a church which would so quickly lap up a man with some very serious personal problems. Wouldn’t it have been more prudent for the Episcos to put Fr. Cutie in a holding pattern for a few years so that he could sort out his life? I can’t imagine how a man in such turmoil would be an effective shepherd of souls. Leads to some very disturbing conclusions about the Episcopal church.
Alberto Cutie was in discussion with various Protestant ecclesial communities in the two years before his fornication became public but he settled for the Episcopals.
“ou’ve got to wonder about a church which would so quickly lap up a man with some very serious personal problems.”
That’s what I was thinking, but then Norah shed some light on things. My question now is, if he was “in discussion” with various protestant ecclesial communities all that time… was he “in discussion” with his Bishop? Did he feel at all inclined to let his superiors know about what he would call his “doubts” and what I would call his ickky and scabrous behavior?
But then, if that happened under the seal of confession, we may never know.
Which brings up another question; do bishops hear the confessions of the priests in their charge, and if so, if a priest confessed to his bishop some awful, blasphemous behavior or apostasy, could the Bishop take any ecclesial action against them because of it (like, say, removing them from active ministry, or some such). It gets hairy, because the bishop could not publicly give any reason for his decision.
+JMJ+
If the Bishop had heard his confession, and if Father Cutie had told about his behavior, the Bishop could have tried to talk to him and show him what to do about it, but he could not have acted upon it outside of the confessional. Not only could he not give any reason for it, he would not be able take ecclesial action against him in the first place. He would only be able to do that if Father Cutie told him outside of the confessional.
Jimmy, is it possible in the future to have your own bracketed comments in a different color, say red? It would make it much easier to read than just having italics. Just a suggestion.
When Alberto Cutie went over to the Episcopalians, his bishop expressed great disappointment that Cutie, after requesting time to think – and during this time there is video footage of him canoodling with his then girlfriend in doorways – did not come back to the bishop to discuss matters. Cutie’s Catholic bishop learned of his going over when he read about it in the newspapers.
I have references for all of my comments but my search engine freezes every time I try to access it.
Jimmy, Fr Cutie is canonically “living in sin” only in the mind of the Catholic Church. But since he is no longer a Catholic, in the mind of the Episcopal Church he is not living in sin. Now, we do not know what is in the mind of God. Canon lawyers do not necessarily speak for God, and Catholic Canon law usually were not written for love but for order and maintenance of the Church’s status quo. The Catholic Church should turn more to Scriptures which allows married priests, than Canon law.
“Fr Cutie is canonically ‘living in sin’ only in the mind of the Catholic Church”, which exercises Christ’s Authority.
“But since he is no longer a Catholic…” According to whom and on what authority?
…”in the mind of the Episcopal Church”–which does not exercise Christ’s Authority, and, as far as I can tell, never claimed to–“he is not living in sin.”
“Now, we do not know what is in the mind of God.” Actually, we do know some of what is in His mind, for he has revealed it to us through His Church. One of the things He has revealed to us is that he has endowed His Church with His Authority to “bind and loose”.
“…Catholic Canon law usually were not written for love but for order and maintenance of the Church’s status quo.” Evidence?
“The Catholic Church should turn more to Scriptures which allows married priests…” The Scriptures were written by Catholics, for Catholics, through the auspices of the Church. The Church, using her Christ-given Authority, determined which writings were divinely ispired and which were not. The Catholic Church allows married priests and currently has married priests, as has been pointed out by Jimmy in his articles as well as by several of the commenters.
Bill912, whatever opinion you have of Fr Cutie, they have no more effect whatsover on him. He is no longer under the jurisdiction of the Catholic Church. Let God be the judge of his heart. There are many other problems the Catholic Church has to deal with, such as the pedophilia scandals (mostly same-sex oriented), priest-womanizers, illegitimate children of priests, shortage of priests, homosexual priests, priest-masturbators, priest who are porno addicts, bankrupt dioceses, credibility of priests in the Europe and in the USA…etc. Pope Benedict said that the Catholic Church should show humility in the face of these clergy sexual problems. One of the ways of showing humility is to accept the fact that mandatory celibacy for Latin-rite diocesan Catholic priests is not working and research should be done if ever it worked well in the past. Arrogance will not lead to any reform.
Not one response to anything I wrote; just a rant against the Church. It didn’t take him long to show his true colors.
Krgy,
Well said!
I think freddy is talking to himself again.
I have thought about the about-face of Fr. Cutie’s with regard to not wanting to be the “anti-celibacy” priest to now apparently becoming just that. Shaming the Catholic Church for its “monolithic” “rules and regulations” such as celibacy is a more intellectually digestible pill to swallow and more dramatic than simply agreeing to disagree with the Church on this issue and moving on with life. Having a more intellectually accessible and dramatic book makes it more appealing to the general public. Having a book that is more appealing to the general public increases the chances that more people will buy it. If more people buy the book, people, including Fr. Cutie, are going to make more…wait for it…$$$MONEY$$$.
Jimmy,
Please tell Bill912 to stop his insulting attacks.
Krgy wrote:
One of the ways of showing humility is to accept the fact that mandatory celibacy for Latin-rite diocesan Catholic priests is not working and research should be done if ever it worked well in the past. Arrogance will not lead to any reform.
This does not follow. It is not humility to accept that mandatory celibacy is not worrying, since such is merely asserting a cause. In fact, there are many reasons for the failure of priests and to define something as true, just because one wishes it to be so is, in fact, a form of pride. If you don’t want married priest, just say so, but don’t make the facts conform to your theories, but rather make your theories conform to the facts. There are many reason for priests failing and celibacy is not a priori, the most important one.
The Chicken
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As time goes by, the meaning of Halloween has become contained by means of celebration.
Although I think that posts should written in English, I agree with the sentiments expressed by Cheap Ugg Boots.
Mandatory celibacy on the part of priests is another example of how the Roman Rite has perverted scripture. As Jimmy has pointed out, celibacy is a discipline. It is not a matter of faith. Indeed, it could not be, since the Bible does not require it. Until 1123, the Roman Rite ordained married men to the clergy, so it is still true that, for more than half its history, the Roman Catholic Church had no problem with married men serving as priests. The reason usually given for the celibacy rule is that the church was afraid that married men would leave their property to their wives and children (gasp!) and not to the church, so it instituted the rule requiring celibacy.
Other rites within the universal church (e.g. Byzantine) ordain married men to the priesthood and there is nothing wrong with that. I am a Ukrainian Catholic, and our pastor is married and has a wife and three children. He is one of the most normal, down-to-earth priests I have ever met, and the kids turned out okay too. If the Roman Rite ordained married men to the clergy, it would be able to draw from a greater cross-section of the population, and that, in itself, would help to decrease the problem of homosexuals and others within the priesthood. As it is now, the priesthood is largely a gay profession, and the seminary in Baltimore is known as the “pink palace.” That is disgusting. Before the self-righteous among you start calling me names, Google the phrases “pink palace” & “seminary” & “Baltimore,” and you will see what I am talking about.
John,
It would be nice to translate Cheap Ugg Boots comments when you comment on them for the benefit of those who do not read French. I do, but I have no interest in commenting in this post. Does anyone need a translation or is Goggle’s Translator sufficient?
By the way, it now translates Latin.
The Chicken
What the heck? Cheap Ugg Boots’s comments do not appear in my Firefox web browser, but does on my Kindle. Anyone know why?
The Chicken
The Chicken, I noticed that they were gone too. Maybe Jimmy removed them because they were not in English? Anyway, the basic tenor of his remark was that we should maintain civility and courtesy in our discussion.
Agnes, the “nightmare” has been caused by the Roman Rite. Contrary to Scripture, natural law, and common sense, it requires a man to renounce the possibility of married life if he wishes to become a priest. Other rites within the universal church (e.g. Byzantine) do not require this, and they are in full communion with the Apostolic See at Rome, and are just as Catholic as the Roman Catholics, and many of their priests are married and have families. There is nothing wrong with this, and the Roman Rite itself ordained married men to the priesthood prior to 1123. In a way, I find the incident with Fr. Cutie to be refreshing and reassuring, since, obviously, he is not a homosexual, as many priests are.
Whenever a normal physical and emotional function is arbitrarily suppressed, and denied any legitimate means of expression, we are going to see incidents such as occurred with Fr. Cutie. While I do not approve his particular means of expression, I can understand why it occurred, and I blame the Roman Rite, and its cruel unnatural view on married life, as part of the cause. I pray for Fr. Cutie, that he can progress to a normal and healthy life and continue to find a way to serve God and His people.
As for his “living in sin,” his “sin” pales by comparison to the molestation of little children, to which the Pope and others have turned a blind eye, and which, in many cases, they have endeavored to hide. Further, since Fr. Cutie is in the United States, his marriage is legal under the civil law, and the Catholic church is not able to pursue him in this world.
John,
Actually, that not what Ugg Boots’s comment said. It basically talked about what happens when one tries to regulate a passion, but I guess that doesn’t matter since the remarks have been removed. I still have no desire to comment on this post.
The Chicken
Indeed.
The Chicken, I was paraphrasing from memory, since the post was no longer available. He did speak of passion, and while he may have inteded to refer to Fr. Cutie, I believe he also meant to refer to the participants in this forum. In the interest of full disclosure, I do not read or write French very well, but I translated his comment using Babelfish (which can be dangerous!).