Delaying Infant Baptism?

A reader writes:

My wife and I are expecting our third child in mid-August.  Our parish does infant baptisms on the
second Sunday of September.  We were hoping to have the baby baptised then.  Unfortunately, my
sister-in-law (the godmother) cannot make it that day.  My wife and I are having a hard time
determining if it would be contrary to our parental obligation to baptize our child if we wait an
additional month to do the baptism so that the godmother can be present.  Thank you!

Here is what the Code of Canon Law says:

Can.  867 ยง1. Parents are obliged to take care that
infants are baptized in the first few weeks; as soon as possible after the
birth or even before it, they are to go to the pastor to request the sacrament
for their child and to be prepared properly for it.

ยง2. An infant in danger of death is to be baptized
without delay.

It would seem to me that you’re talking about the difference between baptizing the child either approximately 4 weeks after baptism or approximately 8-9 weeks after baptism.

Canonically speaking, it seems to me that either of these could plausibly be claimed to be within "the first few weeks." There is no set number for a "few"; if the Church had wanted to set a number, it could have, but anything in the single digits is certainly a plausible contender.

It therefore seems to me that, as long as your baby is not in danger of death, you would be fulfilling your canonical obligations regarding the child.

Should the child be in danger of death, an immediate baptism–even by you at home–would be required.

Other options here would include:

  • Asking the parish to do the baptism at another, sooner time when the godmother can be there and
  • Doing the baptism in September but having someone stand in as a proxy for the godmother.

Hope this helps!

20

Author: Jimmy Akin

Jimmy was born in Texas, grew up nominally Protestant, but at age 20 experienced a profound conversion to Christ. Planning on becoming a Protestant seminary professor, he started an intensive study of the Bible. But the more he immersed himself in Scripture the more he found to support the Catholic faith, and in 1992 he entered the Catholic Church. His conversion story, "A Triumph and a Tragedy," is published in Surprised by Truth. Besides being an author, Jimmy is the Senior Apologist at Catholic Answers, a contributing editor to Catholic Answers Magazine, and a weekly guest on "Catholic Answers Live."

15 thoughts on “Delaying Infant Baptism?”

  1. I had the same issue with the baptism of my children in my parish. For some reason baptisms are done once a month, as if it were unimportant enough to do at least weekly (when there is a baby to be baptized, of course). Baptism is an issue of salvation, and should be performed at the soonest available opportunity. I can’t imagine how I would have felt if my baby had died without this essential sacrament because I waited until the most convenient date for out-of-town friends and family.

  2. In our parish baptisms are done once a year, to my knowledge, on Easter Sunday.

  3. My wife and I had to wait 3 months to baptize our daughter due to family/church schedule issues. Her Godfather, my brother, wan’t able to be present and so her it became a pxoy situation.
    IMHO God probably isn’t as concerned with the exact date as much as with the parents commitment, initiated in through the childs baptism, to raise them in their faith.

  4. Joy, if you take another look, it’s saying that the parents should request the sacrament as soon as possible after the birth, or even before the birth. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Our parish does infant baptisms weekly, and generally there is no problem arranging for another date or time.
    Some smaller parishes may only hold it once a month if there aren’t that many new babies born. Of course, if it’s a goodsized parish with plenty of new babies being born, only once a month strikes me as very odd, at the least.

  6. This is yet another area where so much catechesis needs to be done. I used to teach baptism classes in my parish, and would schedule in parents who had put in their names at the rectory. It was appalling the way people would put off their babies’ baptisms for the flimsiest of reasons. My favorite: I called to see if a couple (who had been “in the queue” for a while but had never actually set a specific date despite a phone call every month) would be ready to baptize the several-months-old baby in February. “Oh, no. We want to wait until May or June so the weather will be better for photots.”
    Good grief. I’m expecting my eighth baby in the fall, and normally waddle myself over to the rectory some time in the third trimester to get the baby’s baptism on the calendar within a month of the scheduled due date. It spares me a lot of grief. The baby’s baptism is scheduled for xxxxx, hope you can make it! ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. This is yet another area where so much catechesis needs to be done. I used to teach baptism classes in my parish, and would schedule in parents who had put in their names at the rectory. It was appalling the way people would put off their babies’ baptisms for the flimsiest of reasons. My favorite: I called to see if a couple (who had been “in the queue” for a while but had never actually set a specific date despite a phone call every month) would be ready to baptize the several-months-old baby in February. “Oh, no. We want to wait until May or June so the weather will be better for photos.”
    Good grief. I’m expecting my eighth baby in the fall, and normally waddle myself over to the rectory some time in the third trimester to get the baby’s baptism on the calendar within a month of the scheduled due date. It spares me a lot of grief. “The baby’s baptism is scheduled for xxxxx, hope you can make it!” ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. We had the smallest baptism ever for our 2nd child–1st week of December, baby 3 wks old, just long enough for mom-in-law to get there to stand in proxy for my sister-in-law and her husband. Only 5 people in the church and our priest was totally flexible with scheduling (he had, I think, 2 other things going on that day and still he squeezed us in).

  9. Baptism is an issue of salvation, and should be performed at the soonest available opportunity.
    I’d like to hear how devout Catholics feel about this issue – that a dead child’s salvation can depend, even only partially, on whether his parents baptised him in time – something he never had any control over, nor could apply his free will to.

  10. Nihil,
    the Church’s teaching is that baptism is necessary, following the teaching in Matthew 28, Mark 16, and Paul in Romans especially. For those who die without baptism, including infants, the Church’s teaching is that we do not know their state in eternal life, but commends such and trusts in God’s mercy.

  11. Thank you, Steve. Can we then infer that baptism is a rite that goes solely to the benefit of the parents? Because otherwise, if God’s judgment were influenced by whether the infant baptism took place (which, as I said, is something the child has no control over), it would clearly be unfair for the baby.

  12. Nihil,
    Baptism confers grace, which is God’s life in us. If a baby, who doesn’t have the use of reason, dies without baptism and then is received into heaven, it wouldn’t mean that those who can receive baptism while alive on earth don’t have to, it would mean that God, Who is all-powerful, is allowing an exception in extreme cases.

  13. What about when your parish doesn’t baptize during certain times in the liturgical calendar?
    Owing to a series of events, including a nasty C-section that took me 2 months to recover from (as in, I couldn’t have stood at the baptism font for that long!), and then the “liturgical calendar” according to my priest, my second son waited until he was 5 months old to be baptized — way too long, but the priest insisted no baptisms be done during Advent (except emergencies.)
    My first was six weeks old.

Comments are closed.